Father and a mum traded a barrage of violent texts in the months before their six-year old daughter was supposedly killed, a court has heard.
In result, Gray, also 36, did all she could to mind and please Butler, placing his needs above everyone else in the household, the court heard.
Ben Butler denies driving Gray to help him cover up the offense and then killing Ellie.
Gray and he also deny kid harshness between 1 August and 29.
In a bit of Gray’s diary with that day, regained from bins, Gray wrote that they “rowed poor”, the court heard.
Gray texted two days after: “I love U and desire U…. I never want to lose you,” just for Butler to call her “a joke”.
Butler seemed to boil “Woke up I am in a fury already… My hands are trembling… One more error Iwill lose it…”
A handwritten note entitled “Ellie’s Behavior” was discovered at your family residence with a listing of ten points including “Lying – always lies and even for no reason”, “always manipulative”, and “believe you can not trust her”.
In August 2, her partner was told by Gray: “Just so U know – I ‘m obsessed and in awe of U! Believe U R so hit (sic) and need U to fantasy me the same X…I ‘d die for you.”
She also supposedly searched the internet for “I ‘m with a bully who beats me and tells me I ‘m ugly and fat and damages me all the time”.
Ellie missed days of school around the time she suffered in October from a broken shoulder.
But Gray extracted a sick note that Ellie had a respiratory tract infection, and neither parent took her to see her GP, Mr Brown said.
On October 14, when Ellie returned with a lump on her head to school, she told over pursuing the household’s new pup teachers she’d fallen.
Gray told him that she adored him and “would expire” for him, to which he responded: “Only expire…snake bitch”, the court heard.
Mr Brown told jurors that handwritten letters were located following Ellie’s departure and in one Gray prayed for Butler to adore her and “stop violence”.
A video clip was regained from your house in which Butler could be heard cursing and ranting on the telephone in front of Ellie.
Jobless Ben Butler was ‘always teetering on the edge of a violent lack of pique’ and his ‘short fuse’ controlled their ‘hazardous’ family life, jurors were told.
He was the only mature at their house in Sutton, south London, when he supposedly flew into a fury and caused ‘devastating head injuries’ to Ellie on 28.
“The deadly injuries were inflicted by choice upon that young girl, maybe in a short but nonetheless dreadful second.”
Jennie Gray, Ellie’s mom, and Butler’s partner was supposedly phoned from her work as a graphic designer in a office building – where they’re standing trial.
The pair maintained Ellie had been the victim of a terrible accident and they’d discovered her like that after Gray returned home.
“The awful the fact is the scene was staged by the defendants.
“What they said in those seemingly crazy minutes and which they continued to assert was also staged.
“This was a planned, carefully coordinated and complex coverup, designed entirely to mislead and divert focus in particular away from Ben Butler.
“In fact Ellie had endured the dreadful head injuries she’d at the hands of Butler.”
She also suffered bruising to distinct parts of her body including marks under her jaw, consistent with fingertip marks that were grasping.
Mr Brown said that Butler understood what he called and had done Gray back to your house shortly after the assault, which could have been two hours before the emergency services were called.
The court heard that in that time they organized their lying narrative for the external world and attempted to destroy evidence.
The coverup called for staging the scene with attempts dump signs in the communal dustbins at Westover Close, ruin files and to wash clothes.
In addition they sent texts to demonstrate everything was entirely normal in the hour before they each put on ‘the desperate urgency’ .
“For all that time while the defendants busied themselves Ellie Butler was lying in among the rooms for the reason that house almost surely dead,” said Mr Brown.
“The terrible reality is that both defendants place themselves before the well being or dignity of that little girl with Jennie Gray seeking to shield the guy, who you’ll hear, had major control over her, emotionally and often physically.”
“In respect of Butler, that is a narrative of a skeptical and considered misrepresentation directed by a guy acting to save himself,” he continued.
Butler is accused of killing his daughter and the couple a kid cruelty charge associated with a broken shoulder bone is faced by both endured by Ellie in the weeks before she expired.
“However it was caused, the signs is that harm would happen to be extremely painful for Ellie and clearly so to the parents in whose attention Ellie was at that time,” said Mr Brown.
Jurors were told of the ‘really upsetting’ image within the family in the weeks and months leading up to the departure of Ellie.
The relationship between Gray and Butler was’ hazardous and dysfunctional’ and ‘dominated by an angry, self centred and tempered guy’, it was said.
Gray was the single-breadwinner and ‘distressed to please’ her associate, who she set above everything else in her life, including Ellie, the jury heard.
“The evidence implies that Butler was a guy who was frequently at the very end of his tether.”
The court heard how he refused to accept the practicalities of looking after a child and his duties whilst Gray was at work.